Who Is in Your Thoughts?

When I was young, I didn’t think very much about my grandparents, aunts and uncles, most of whom lived a good distance away from me. Now that I’m (do I dare to admit it?) old, I realize they thought about me a lot. How do I know? Because I think about my children and grandchildren, nieces and nephews a lot. So who is in your thoughts?

If you have children at home, they are obviously your main concern. Rest assured, those of us who have passed that stage are thinking of you and what you may be going through. We are very interested in everything about you, even when we don’t call or write. Who calls or writes anymore anyway? We have to learn how to text now.

There are some grandparents who don’t fall into this all-about-the-young-people category, I hasten to add. In my first marriage, when I had small children, my mother-in-law lived almost a thousand miles away and visited us maybe once a year. I think we went to see her once in the ten years of marriage. My husband and she really didn’t get along, and I never got close to her. She didn’t seem really interested in getting to know my children or show any real affection for them. I do believe in my heart that she loved them, however.

I don’t mean to say there is anything wrong with you if you fall into the somewhat distant category. We all have our idiosyncracies. And there could be many legitimate reasons for being non-demonstrative. Even so, I maintain my position that the old folks think about the young ones more than the young ones think about them.

This is why I’m a fan of communication. It’s up to us older ones to keep in touch—by phone, text, email or snail mail—and generally make nuisances of ourselves if we want to maintain close family ties.
So, who is in your thoughts today? Let them know, and then let me know the results below. I’d love to compare notes.


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