Home Isn’t What It Used to Be


Home is the place where, when you have to go there, they have to take you in. —Robert Frost

That may not be as true any more as it was in Frost’s day. Or at least you can’t call it home if they don’t want you to be there.

Today I can count on the fingers of both hands and all my toes the number of families that can’t or won’t take in their kin. With this definition, it can’t be called home then, right?

What sits at the core of this matter? Is it addiction? Selfishness? Hard-heartedness? Inability to resolve conflicts? I’ve seen this and much more in my interactions with friends, relatives and clients. The number of grown children who want nothing to do with their parents is greater than it used to be.

What causes estrangement?

This is something to think about, not an exhaustive list of causes. Have you experienced this in your own life? I have, and I’m here to tell you it’s the last thing I would have ever imagined that could happen. Did I say something he didn’t like? Did I not raise him right? Is he in trouble? Is he in jail? Is he dead? Is he sick? What does he intend to do about our relationship?

These and many more questions are flooding into my mind when I allow myself to think about him. God knows I’d take him in, just as the quote says, but we are so different we’d never be able to live together. Would he take me in? I don’t know.

It’s very hard to be on this side of the estrangement, as many of you know. I’d like to hear your comments below.

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